After I told the adulteress’ husband about the affair, “they” sent us a cease and desist email. And that’s okay because Greg was working on a no contact letter to send to her. But he didn’t end up finishing it because of the cease and desist. I sent her husband an email replying with more info he might want and then agreed I would abide by the cease and desist. We have abided by our part. But, apparently, it seems that the adulteress hasn’t and that she is stalking my Pinterest account.

She doesn’t like my Pinterest account because I have a board about “the adulteress”. I pin things about adultery and homewreckers. I also have one about cheaters/liars with quotes and things pertaining to what my husband did to me. It’s my account. It’s my freedom. Those two did this to me and I am going to do what I need to do to heal and to help others who are walking this same walk. She is an evil, cruel person. My pain will not be in vain. This is my life and my Pinterest account is about my life- my likes and my dislikes. It is none of her business and I will not be controlled by her. And she can’t do anything about this blog. If I choose to reveal her name on here, she cannot do anything. It’s my freedom of speech.

I suspected she was stalking me because she has reported my board about “the adulteress” before. I keep starting another board about “the adulteress” and then it gets reported and removed again. This time she left it alone for awhile but I suspected she was probably stalking me so I found a picture of the place she works and I pinned it with the comment, “This is where the adulteress works”. It drew her out of her rat hole like I knew it would.

The affair has been over for almost 2 years. Why is she so obsessed with me? Why is she so interested in my Pinterest account? Why is she so afraid? I haven’t named her. I have put her initials on there, but MH could mean a lot of people. The people following my board wouldn’t know who she is. They can’t tie it to her. Sure, my friends and coworkers know who it is because my husband and I have been very vocal about it. But it is not harassing or bullying her. She would not even know it existed if she weren’t stalking me. She needs to just own what she did, leave me alone, and move on. People know she is an adulteress and that is HER problem. SHE did that to HERSELF.

She is crazy. I believe her affair with my husband was more about her wanting my life than wanting my husband. I think she was jealous of our perceived marriage. Greg would always speak highly of me in public and he had just done so at a company dinner. Greg said she had told him that she and her husband had gone to marriage counseling several times. She claimed to coworkers that she had children only because her husband wanted them. She was very vocal about that. And she didn’t seem to care much about them. What kind of mother of young children has an affair?

Women who choose to sleep with a married man make the choice to do so. They know that when the affair comes out, because it will, there will be consequences to pay. That’s why most women don’t go around sleeping with married men. Most women are not that gullible, stupid, or weak. This adulteress had her own husband she should have been sleeping with and taking care of and not worrying about what was going on in my marriage. She chose to mess with my marriage and I think she is always looking over her shoulder wondering what I might do. She’s scared because I can out her. That’s a consequence of her sin. Maybe her children will find out one day how terrible their mother is and how she cared nothing about them and their future… Maybe her husband will decide he’s sick of her and leave her…. Maybe he will find someone else and leave her for his adulteress…. And if she keeps backing me into a corner by harassing me on Pinterest, then it could get ugly. I’m sure she doesn’t want her friends and coworkers to know she sleeps with married men. She might sleep with their husbands if they can offer her a better life. She seems to only care about her selfish desires and cares nothing about who might get hurt.

She really needs to stop worrying about what I am doing to heal. She caused this. If she had not been after my husband and whored herself out, I wouldn’t be going through this. Yes, there might have been someone else at some point, but there had not been and she is the one who chose to enter into an affair with him. She could have been someone with morals and integrity who wouldn’t do that. She could have told my husband no and not entered into an affair. But after his inappropriate kiss she is the one who initiated the next kiss the next time she saw him. She made a conscious choice to have an affair with him. So she is equally to blame. It takes two to have an affair.

I pin quotes about adultery into a board labeled with her initials. How is that hurting her? As my husband says, she just doesn’t like it because it is the truth. The truth bothers her. She doesn’t want to see the truth. Oh well. It ANGERS me that she wanted to step into my shoes and pretended to be married to my husband. Yes, she chose to go by “MM” as if she was married to him. She told my husband that she liked that better than her initials from her husband’s name. I told her husband that, but I guess he just ignored it. I really am surprised that has not bothered him. I think that if he really cared about her it would bother him. After talking to him and his reaction to me, I don’t feel empathy for him as I did in the beginning. He was told they might be having an affair but she had explained it away. He trusted her. He didn’t have the decency to come to me and tell me or ask me. It’s ridiculous that he wants to ignore it so easily. She basically said she didn’t like his last name and it doesn’t seem to bother him. Strange. I think I have handled this a lot stronger than him. He seems to be weak. She seems to like weak men and probably because she knows she can manipulate weak men. I know she was manipulating my husband when he was at a very weak point. I reacted differently when I found out. I put my foot down. I didn’t play the “pick me dance”. I just told him it was me or her and if he chose me he had to fire her. If he didn’t choose me, then he needed to leave. Well, that night, he told me that he was going to fight for me and our family and would terminate her position. He didn’t seem attached to her. Yeah, that has kind of bothered me about him that he would use someone like that, but I can see the changes in him and they seem pretty consistent with his story that God just pulled the blinders off and he was just done with her. He says he was just ashamed and sickened by what he had done. But I don’t believe the adulteress has any integrity. I think she would sell herself to anyone for a better lifestyle. She’s just cheap like that.

The adulteress underestimated me. I wasn’t going to just give up all I have worked hard for my whole life and let her have it. This is OUR empire- my husband’s and mine. We built it together. We’ve been together longer than she has been alive. I am the woman behind the man and, if I hadn’t been in his life, he wouldn’t have taken the path I encouraged him to take. He has said that he doesn’t know what he would have done. I was the one who shared the job listing with him and encouraged him to go apply for. It was our teamwork that built this empire. She can’t just take it from me. And she is an idiot to think that she could or that I would just let her have it. Sorry, but she can’t compete with me. She’s not that bright. She is certainly not on the same level as me, and, because she is an adulteress, she’ll never be on my level. Most importantly, I actually have morals and integrity and I bore his three children. They are the greatest blessings to me. While my husband chased after his dreams of “being somebody important”, I treasured being a wife and the mother of our three precious children. I will never regret the attention I gave my children. They were here for me when my husband was not. The adulteress cared nothing about her own children.

Oh, I hate my husband for choosing to put me through this! Many times I think I should just leave. I deserve a man with integrity and faithfulness because that is what I have given him our whole marriage. He truly does not deserve me. And the fact that he did what he did with such trash as the adulteress, well, there aren’t words for me to express my feelings about that. But I do believe that GOD can change people who are truly remorseful and who repent and give their lives to Him. And I have faith that my God loves me and has my best interests at heart. I have stood for His truth in major battles and have not backed down. I prayed for years that He would save my husband. I was at a point where I was begging Him to save him when the affair was going on and I didn’t know. And I believe that God heard my prayers and answered them. Just as God saved Saul and changed him to Paul, I believe that Greg has been changed. The adulteress did not have my husband. She had the terrible monster she called “G”. “G” never really existed. He was a possessed form of Greg and he was a fantasy she tried to create. Her professed love was a lie and he showed his professed love to her was a lie. I am the only one who has given him true love and it hurts that he was possessed by her lies and ruined what we had for them.

I am giving him the opportunity to show me that he has truly changed. I want extraordinary and that is what I expect if he wants me to stay. So far, he has worked hard at rebuilding our marriage and family. I do believe he is a better version of what he used to be before the affair. Time will tell. If he is still fooling me like he did during the affair, then he will answer to God for that. I hope for his sake that he is being honest but, unfortunately, there is no way for me to ever truly know. I’ll never fully believe him ever again. How sad is that? That’s what betrayal does.

All I can do is lean on Jesus/Yeshua and trust in Him. He’s in the business of mending broken hearts and saving people. He is faithful. He will never forsake me. He will lead me.

As far as the adulteress, I know my God will deal with her for what she has done.